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Working with your spouse

Jill Coyle

Jill Coyle

While leading a talented group of female entrepreneurs at the Women in Business conference in September, I learned that 4 of the 6 entrepreneurs on the stage (myself included) worked with their spouses.

This led to some interesting discussion as one of the panelists shared that she’d actually had to “fire” her husband and tell him to go start his own business.

Here are some of the things we female entrepreneurs shared about the joys and challenges of working with our husbands.

Some of the challenges

Work doesn’t stop.

One panelist shared that she and her husband had a difficult time leaving work at the office. They continued to discuss work over dinner, during vacation, on Saturday, etc.

Home life can spill over into work

If a husband and wife are having a “discussion” (oh, alright, let’s call it a “fight”), we often find it challenging to not let that fight affect our relationship once we’re in the office.

Personality conflict

For some business/marriage partners, working together brought out the best in them – they balanced each other perfectly, offset each other’s weaknesses, etc. For some, it was a major clash of the titans -  they drove each other so crazy that they had to dissolve the partnership…or totally risk their marriage. As one woman so aptly put it, “I can be married to you – I just can’t be your business partner!”

The joys

Total trust

One great thing about being business partners with your spouse is that (most likely) you totally trust your spouse. I’ve heard so many horror-stories, especially in China, about “partners” running off and stealing the whole business. That’s a lot less likely to happen when you are married to your business partner.

Balance each other

For this group of women anyway, most of them talked about how they work so well with their spouse. One person handles the staff, the other the sales and output; their strengths go hand in hand. They’re able to build each other up – and soften some of the rough edges.

Sharing

One great thing about building a successful company with your spouse is that you do it together. It is something you accomplish together – you can put your arm around your business partner and say, “Wow, look what we are doing together!”

What about you? Do you work with your spouse (or have you done so in the past)? Share with us some of your stories.

Business Risks in China

Tanya Crossman

Tanya Crossman

I recently stumbled onto Thunder Post - there are some good posts on international business and I’ll take some more time to have a look around later. Right now I want to bring to your attention a post from November – an interview with Neal Beatty,  Regional Director (Global Client Services) with the company Control Risks.

Overall some good and solid advice; worth reading through the whole piece if you want a more detailed advice on business risks in China (read it here).

I enjoyed the way Neal pointed to a common sense, middle-road philosophy to risk in China. To treat China as the same as everywhere else is no worse than to think China is totally different to everywhere else. Some things hold true in every market; some differences have a huge effect on business.

Everyone’s read the books on “doing business in China” and that’s a great start for people new to the country. But that’s just scratching the surface, and often seems to lead managers to over-emphasize or over-simplify a few features of operating environment… There’s also a tendency even these days to get carried away with the “China is different” concept, and lose sight of commercial and risk-management principles and processes the company applies elsewhere. China is different in many ways and understanding the differences is vital, but that doesn’t mean there’s some mysterious formula here that only a few people understand – like everywhere else, you need a well-informed, comprehensive and rigorously planned out approach to managing risk, not silver bullets.
Neal was asked about risks common to business in China. Lots has been said about the risks associated with corruption and IP, but I was pleased to see Neal highlight risks in the supply chain and HR. Knowing where all the pieces are coming from is important – it can be difficult to control the supply chain in a place where subcontracting is extremely common. As for HR, it is important to be very clear on what labor laws require – there can be local requirements separate to national regulations. Hiring foreign staff also requires a lot of precision, including which companies can legally hire a resident alien and sponsor their work permit and visa.
One of the most serious potential risks to any business in China is the tacit acceptance of the “This is China” approach to business ethics and compliance issues… By condoning “low level” corruption within the organization, there is a serious risk of it getting out of control and in the worst case putting the entire operation in jeopardy. A zero tolerance approach is certainly not easy, and requires time, effort and budget, but I would say it is the best way to operate in China, just as in other parts of the world. And it is essential that senior management lay down the law and set out the company culture towards such issues from the very start.
Neal has touched on something very important here – the importance of senior management in making this part of company culture. The topic of corruption is raised in most Imports Oriental job interviews. We talk to shortlisted candidates about the value we place on honesty and integrity, including when it comes to bribes and other ways to curry favor. Employees sent to visit suppliers on site or at a trade show are given a clear policy on what they can/cannot accept from the supplier, services they are not permitted to provide, etc. These conversations can be uncomfortable, but are part of clarifying where the line in the sand is. For example, is it okay for the supplier to buy lunch for our staff in a nice restaurant? What should our staff not do with a potential supplier, even when done in order to build up a relationship? Laying down the answers to these questions, and the reason behind the choices, BEFORE someone is in the situation makes it clear what our company’s policies and expectations are.
I don’t believe Chinese people are any different in terms of morals or bad behavior than someone from Northern Ireland. But in China, there are cultural norms that sometimes conflict with the corporate expectations. For example, the concept of a conflict of interest is not understood in the same way as in the EU /US. To many Chinese people it seems perfectly reasonable to consider engaging a supplier owned by a family member or old school classmate. After all, I trust these people far more than some random supplier that approaches me at a trade fair.
A good example of the difference between a moral issue and a cultural issue. What may seem a clear-cut case of business ethics in the US or Europe may not be seen the same way in China.
Where these three areas (political v cultural v commercial) often overlap is when doing business away from the big Tier One cities. Generally speaking, the influence of local politics on local business is more unrestrained away from the biggest cities. This can pose its own set of unique risks that can only be mitigated by a very thorough due diligence process prior to forming a business relationship in that location.
Another reason to do your research ahead of time – even if you’ve been in China for a while, a new location may have different hoops to jump through.
I don’t think any company can run “risk free”, no matter what sector or what size of operation. From the largest MNC with multiple manufacturing and distribution facilities around China, to the “one-man-band” sourcing operation, everyone will face risks. Moreover, you can never reduce risk to zero. No matter how good your risk management program, there will always be someone who does something without considering the possible outcomes and impacts thoroughly, or simply faces a problem that couldn’t be anticipated or couldn’t be prevented. And thus you need to be able to react appropriately and have contingencies in place.  But a good awareness of the risks from the very beginning, along with regular (twice a year) reviews of your level of risk exposure, will go a long way to mitigating many of your operational risks.

I like that – it’s about mitigating operational risk through knowledge. Know the potential for problems, and know your current risk exposure.

Using “face” to resolve conflict without a confrontation

Tanya Crossman

Tanya Crossman

We’ve talked about “face” and “guanxi” on the Imports Oriental blog before. Both are key cultural concepts in China. There are elements of face and guanxi in all cultures, but they are expressed differently. Understanding the Chinese expressions of face and guanxi allows you to navigate situations more smoothly, and better understand the people you encounter.

Recently I saw a friend use face to resolve a situation in the simplest manner possible. He rents a warehouse space for regular events. As few others use the space his own equipment is left out from week to week – chairs, tables, heaters, etc. One week a small gas heater was missing; a quick investigation discovered that the landlord had been “borrowing” it to heat his company office during the week, and on this particular week forgot to return it.
At this point, many people (myself included) would feel a desire to send a brusque message to the landlord, along the lines of “Keep your hands of my property! I bought it and pay for the gas that it runs on!” My friend, however, asked his assistant to pass along a simple, well-worded message: “Tell the landlord that we need our heater kept in the room for our use, but if he can’t afford a heater, we will be happy to buy one for him.”
At first glance, it may seem that my friend was being too nice – offering to buy a heater for someone who was taking and using your own without permission? Why would you do that? In reality, he never intended to do so. He was subtly using the concept of “face” to encourage the landlord to do the right thing. The landlord, who owns the entire building and more besides, obviously has enough money to buy a small gas heater. If he allowed his tenants (who own quite a number) to purchase one for him, he would lose face – it would be like saying that he is too poor to buy one for himself.
Most Chinese will avoid confrontation where possible; appealing to a person’s pride (their desire to have “face”) is one way to do that.  My friend used one very smart comment to resolve a potential conflict without resorting to a confrontation.
For more on “face”, see this previous post:

Leverage – having a China presence changes the game

Tanya Crossman

Tanya Crossman

Today we’re looking at a recent post on Silk Road International. David talks about leverage, and how even a careful buyer can get into trouble when they don’t have enough of it.

David uses two cases studies to illustrate this. In one case, good preparation did not make up for a lack of in-person inspection, and a whole shipment of bad product resulted.

They had done almost everything correct.  But they didn’t have on-sight QC and when their product showed up incorrect, the small percentage (10%) they had retained for just this kind of situation was not enough to compensate for an entire order of unusable product.

In the second case, the company again prepared well, but full payment upfront meant there was no leverage for fixing problems down the track.

Both companies had the same basic problem–without some sort of physical presence in the factory neither of them had any leverage.  Once there were production problems (that cost time and/or money to resolve) the factory had no incentive to fix or replace anything.  And since neither of the companies had a presence in China they had no means of enforcing any of their demands (or even their originally contracted standards). I’d like to say that this is unusual and these two companies just had bad luck.  But the reality is that this is more common that not.

Having a presence in China makes a big difference when it comes to leverage in negotiations. If your supplier knows you can just get in a car or on a train and visit in a few hours’ time, he has greater incentive to keep you happy, and to resolve any problems that arise. If he knows you will visit to inspect product in the factory during production, he has a greater incentive to watch over production quality. If you are not in China yourself, having a trusted employee or agent on the ground can help.

Tying payments to QC inspection reports helps a ton.  As does being in the factory for critical production points (or having someone represent you there).  Remember, if you’re not doing your own QC or at least tying payments to QC reports, you’ve got no reason to expect that you’ll get what you’ve contracted for–you have no way to enforce your standards and the factory has no incentive not to save as much money as possible.

The important thing is to give the factory an incentive to meet your requirements (be it in terms of quality, punctuality, or cost). We regularly work with small factories. This makes us a higher priority customer (our orders form a larger part of the factory’s bottom line) but quality control can be a big issue in the beginning. We use a range of methods to improve quality. Continuing to work with the same factory over time, however, has many long term benefits, not the least of which being the build up of guanxi.

Our strategies included:

  • sending out own staff to train the factory’s quality inspectors
  • a contract stipulating we only pay for items that have passed our own independent QC (items than failed inspection were returned; we would pay for any that were suitably rectified and sent back to us)
  • a bonus for orders with a defect rate under 10%
  • when quality standards rose across the board, we focussed on improving adherence to schedule

One last point from David’s article:

It’s the same thing if you’re sourcing product or asking for samples.  If there is no incentive other than your word that “I’m going to place a really big order–there is so much potential here for us to make a ton of money!” then there is probably no chance that you’ll be anyone’s priority project… Remember, foreign clients are now a serious RISK.  The tables have turned in the last three years and you are now seen as a liability not an opportunity until you prove otherwise.  Without significant leverage, budget-conscious risk-adverse Chinese factories will just not take the gamble.

It’s a big risk to assume that as a foreign buyer you are automatically an attractive customer that any supplier would love to have. Even if you have been buying from China a long time, a new factory has no guarantee that you will buy big from them. There’s no shortcut – be a good customer, and over time you will prove yourself worthy of a supplier’s best efforts.

The changing role of a leader

Danny Coyle

Danny Coyle

The role of the leader

There’s so much stuff on leadership out there.  Here’s another 2 cents to add to the pile.

I’m finding that my role is changing.  Where I used to be the cheerleader, both cheering and leading, rallying the troops in a more public and energetic way, I’m finding that my leadership these days is more like a shepherd.  I’m watching the flock for any sick sheep that might need a little more care and attention.  Giving the kind word when it’s needed. Doing a lot more one-on-one, rather than the big dance in front of everyone.

As the company evolves and goes through it’s phases, I’m learning how to read the situations and respond to what our internal business needs are.  It’s a lot of fun to watch our company change.

I’m sure that I’ll be back into the public and energizing role in the future, but I find that I personally enjoy the shepherd role a lot.

Have you noticed the nature of your own leadership role change over time?

Happy New Year from Imports Oriental – 2010 in blog posts

2010 was a big year for Imports Oriental. There were staff changes, an office move, a big award, and the first full year of our blog. We want to celebrate the start of 2011 by looking back at some highlights of the blog from the year past.
Jill and fellow award-winning entrepreneur Karen Patterson pose with their awards

Jill and Karen pose with their awards

A big highlight of 2010 came at the Women in Business awards, where Jill was voted the People’s Choice Entrepreneur of the Year. She also spoke at a WiB event and moderated a fantastic panel of women entrepreneurs in China at the Women in Business conference in September.

This year on the blog we’ve covered a number of topics. As we work mostly with textiles, specifically apparel (both woven and knits), we talked about apparel and knitwear manufacturing, and working around the peak season for knitwear products.

We gave advice on doing business in China, with tips for new exporters and stories about our experiences with local factories. We looked at the differences between working with big and small factories, and talked about what manufacturing looks like in a rural context.

We also talked about other China-specific issues. There are a lot of good blogs covering these topics, so we often review and give our own thoughts on topics that are big in the China blogosphere, such as GuanxiFace, and cultural sensitivity.

As an entrepreneurial enterprise, we also focus on what life is like for entrepreneurs. Leadership and business management topics we’ve covered this year included:

And, on a fun note, we posted stories and photos from our company charity day on Children’s Day,  June 1st.
Imports Oriental staff playing with kids from Luke's House and House of Joy

Imports Oriental staff playing with kids from Luke's House and House of Joy

It’s been a big year, and we thank all of you for sharing it with us! We look forward to connecting more in the coming year. May 2011 be a prosperous year for all of you, both personally and professionally.

Happy New Year, from all of us at Imports Oriental!

Danny and Jill Coyle

Danny and Jill Coyle

Intuition and the “gut feeling” that gets you out of trouble

Tanya Crossman

Tanya Crossman

Fashion Incubator is a great blog focussed on pattern making. We don’t often link to it as while it is fascinating to me it doesn’t generally overlap the topics we cover on Imports Oriental. Kathleen posted a really interested article the other week, however, which I wanted to bring to your attention.

She talks about intuition, and the importance of paying attention to it, especially in business. She tells a story about a time where investigating a gut feeling regarding a certain project enabled her to escape the worst of what could have been a very big mess.

In terms we typically define it, intuition is a gut level impression we get about a person or situation and for which we are at a loss to understand why… understanding the mechanisms of intuition allows me to move from indecision to informed understanding.

Kathleen talks about intuition as the “back brain” – the forebrain thinks logically, according to information obviously available, while the back brain deals with more subtle “cues”. Those cues may not be articulated as evidence of a problem, but are more like red flags – markers that “this” often means “that” is happening underneath. So the gut feeling isn’t saying “here is what’s wrong”; rather, it is part of you noticing a pattern that in other situations has been connected to a problem under the surface.

You go out to dinner with somebody you’re thinking of doing business with. They are pleasant enough, the details seem equitable but your intuition tells you something is amiss. Problem is, there’s nothing your fore brain can interpret as being a rational cause of discomfort but still, your dis-ease persists. I know what many people (most of them women) do, because you can’t articulate exactly what’s bugging you, you elect to give them the benefit of the doubt because that’s the only fair thing to do. Right? Well, maybe you shouldn’t. First you should try to pull cues from the situation which can help the back brain to communicate.

The next time you have a bad feeling, you need to map it. Clear your mind and write down any and every single misgiving you have no matter how stupid, trivial, childish or germane to the situation. Things like, do they salt their food before they even taste it? You don’t want to be involved in manufacturing or engineering with someone who does that, no way no how (long story). Many things may seem like emotional reactions that have nothing to do with business or being fair or open minded -you know, giving the benefit of the doubt in the absence of proofs. These are cues your inarticulate deep brain has put together in a pattern but does not have the means to tell your front brain. As you do this, more things will occur to you that you hadn’t recognized before. You won’t get too far into it before you realize that a pattern has emerged and your course of action is clearer.

I was particularly struck by the comment about people who salt their food before eating. I often do that myself. Once I stopped to think what that might say about a person, I was stunned. Salting food before eating it means I’ve made an assumption that the food before me will not be to my liking before I’ve even tasted it! I also have a tendency to make assumptions about people and situations before investigating them properly. It’s clearly a flaw, and while I am capable of changing my quickly-made-up mind, I waste time and offend people in the process.

Back to the topic, though; I think this is great advice. Investigating a “bad feeling” may seem like  a bad idea. You’re under a deadline, and you have no logical reason to delay. However, if that investigation leads you to an early warning, it may save you big time in the future. Think of such thinking time as an investment in the future of the deal you’re working on.

The point is, if you have a gut reaction without rational reasons, your deep brain is trying to tell you it has put the cues together. Give it a chance to speak so you can move forward decisively without feeling guilty that you haven’t given someone the benefit of the doubt.

Read the full article on Fashion Incubator here.

Chinese Public Holidays for 2011

Tanya Crossman

Tanya Crossman

The Chinese system for public holidays can be very confusing to the uninitiated. Actually, it can be confusing even to those of us who’ve lived here for quite some time.

Here’s the story: up until a few years ago, China had only three public holidays each year – the three “golden week” holidays: Chinese New Year in January/February, Labor Day on May 1st, and National Day on October 1st. Only 3 days of paid holidays were alloted for each week, but in order to give everyone the benefit of a full 7 day holiday, the weekends were “rearranged” to give 7 days in a row. This created the “working weekend” effect – to make up for the extra days off in the golden week, everyone works a predetermined weekend. The entire country is at work/school on those days.

A few years ago, the holiday schedule was restructured. The Labor Day golden week was reduced to a single day off, and three traditional holidays recognized with a public holiday (plus a day’s holiday for the solar New Year on January 1st). The habit of rearranging weekends to create a longer consecutive holiday period continued, however. Each one day holiday is actually a three day holiday, with a working weekend to make up for the extra time off.

The dates for the 2011 public holidays and working weekends were announced in early December. A lot of the holidays fall around weekends this year, meaning a little less chaos than normal – we just get long weekends. The two golden weeks are the most complicated, as always. Here’s the full list:

Solar New Year: January 1st-3rd
A long weekend with Monday the 3rd off work.

Lunar (Chinese) New Year: February 2nd-8th
Working weekends: the Sunday before (January 30th) and the Saturday after (February 12th)
Saturday January 29th is a regular weekend day, then the craziness begins. Everyone works  Sunday-Tuesday (January 30th-31st, February 1st), takes Wednesday to Tuesday off (the 2nd-8th) then works Wednesday-Saturday (9th-12th). Sunday the 13th is a normal weekend day and then everything is back to normal.

Qing Ming (Tomb Sweeping) Festival: April 3rd-5th
Working weekend: Saturday April 2nd
A long work week Monday-Saturday, March 28th-April 2nd; followed by three days off, Sunday April 3rd to Tuesday April 5th. Then it’s back to work (and play) as normal on Wednesday the 6th.

Labor Day: April 30th – May 2nd
A long weekend with Monday May 2nd off work.

Dragon Boat Festival: June 4th-6th
A long weekend with Monday June 6th off work.

Mid-Autumn Festival: September 10th-12th
A long weekend with Monday September 12th off work.

National Day : October 1st-7th
Working weekend: October 8th-9th
The last week of September is business as usual, with the “golden week” starting on Saturday October 1st. Monday-Friday the 3rd-7th are holiday, with work resuming on Saturday the 8th and continuing with 7 straight workdays (the 8th-14th). Normal weekends resume on Saturday the 15th.

Cultural sensitivity for international business

Tanya Crossman

Tanya Crossman

There was a fantastic 3-part post on the China Law blog the other week. A new contributor, Jason Patent, gave advice based on the idea that knowing the Chinese culture is a huge help to anyone doing business here. All three posts were very well written and worthy of a careful read.

I’m going to go through the general idea of each post, with some of my own thoughts and a few quotes. If you find it interesting, do go and read Jason’s original posts.

In Part I, Jason shared a story in which an experienced businessman who had done his research blew a great opportunity in China through a lack of cultural preparation.

This is an important topic for anyone planning to do business in China, whether directly or through an intermediary. Things are DIFFERENT. Whoever is on the ground needs to be culturally aware, and whoever is managing them needs to leave space for the differences culture brings.

If you are using an intermediary for your China dealings, try to listen to their explanations of situations that come up – don’t expect it to fit in the box of business in your own culture. If you can accept that the Chinese way is not “wrong,” but simply different, it will help you be more relaxed and, in the long run, effective.

I particularly enjoyed this quote from the summing up at the end of the post:

Business is not just business, despite our American insistence to the contrary. The only way to succeed in China is with the curiosity to examine our own beliefs and practices, and the humility to see other ways of doing things as equally valid. And the good sense to spend a bit of time and money now to save, and make, much more down the line.

Part II focused on ethics, and in particular, the perception that Chinese are less ethical in business than westerners.

A favorite critique by Westerners of China is that “the Chinese are unethical.” It is claimed that Chinese deceive, don’t stick to contracts, deliberately cheat. While few would deny that China can be a frustrating place for Westerners to do business, and while unethical behavior certainly occurs in China, claims of unethical behavior are often exaggerated, and result from Westerners’ own failure to understand the different background assumptions held by the Chinese.

Jason includes a chart which compares some of the values emphasized in China/the West, and the implications of these mismatches to business. For example, we may see a person’s behavior and, misunderstanding the intention of this behavior, assume they are trying to cheat us in some way.

The rub is that we have no access to anyone else’s intentions. All we have to go on is behavior. We observe a behavior, and attribute an intention, whether it’s accurate or not. The result: we make a lot of mistakes, often assuming evil intent where intent was either good or, at worst, indifferent. Whether we like it or not, we are wired to judge those around us based only on their behaviors, while at the same time judging ourselves based mostly on our intentions. That’s a cold, hard reality — but a good one to know about.

I really enjoyed reading this discussion. As Jason himself says, it’s not new information, but it is very important to business (and life) in a cross-cultural environment. I know that, personally speaking, understanding that behavior which frustrates me may have a different intention than I would naturally ascribe to it helps me be more at peace.

Giving others the benefit of the doubt (assuming their intentions are good) and then trying to clarify the situation with careful, calm questions helps greatly. This is not just in dealing with suppliers or customers (external parties) but even within your own company. There have been several occasions in Imports Oriental where misunderstood intentions have created unnecessary tension – tension which dissolved almost immediately once there was clarification.

Part III focused on stereotypes that we carry, and how they affect our perspective. Jason lists 9 stereotypes many Westerners carry into business dealings in China.

1. The Chinese are out to cheat me.
2. The Chinese think they’re superior.
3. The Chinese lie.
4. The Chinese go back on their word.
5. The Chinese are always stalling for time.
6. The Chinese are stingy.
7. The Chinese don’t care about quality.
8. The Chinese don’t care about their environment.
9. The Chinese hate Westerners.

Jason goes through each of the 9 and gives perspective on each – how these stereotypes can come about and explaining a bit of what can be behind them. There are unethical people in every culture, but labeling all Chinese as dishonest or liars is not the solution. I’ll end with a quote from Jason’s summary:

Categories can be useful. Reasoned, informed judgment can be useful. Stereotypes have zero business value. Get savvy about your own stereotypes and re-frame them. Not only will you feel better and get along better, but your business will do better.

When is a problem not really a problem?

Danny Coyle

Danny Coyle

I’ve been travelling lately, and I haven’t been writing so much on the blog.  Sorry about that.

During my travels, I’ve been thinking a lot about culture.  I was in Tuscany for 6 days, and had an amazing experience.  I watched an interesting conversation unfold that I thought had some serious business implications.

A friend of mine had just finished eating his steak, and ordered a cafe latte (coffee with milk).  The proprieter of the restaurant personally came to scold him for ordering milk after eating a steak.  He politely changed his mind and ordered a regular coffee, much to the approval of the owner of the restaurant.  The owner explained that if you have milk after eating steak, the milk will curdle in your stomach and make you very sick.

I looked at my wife and commented how in China, if our kids don’t keep their stomachs covered at night, we are told they will have diarrhea.  In America, if you go out in the rain without an umbrella, you are sure to catch a cold.

It’s interesting how everyone seems to have specific things that cause sickness.  Do any of them really make you sick?  I doubt it.

As I was thinking about this, I wondered how many ‘problems’ really aren’t problems.  How many of the ‘problems’ that I face are just cultural misunderstandings that I’ve been tricked into worrying about, when in reality, it’s not a problem at all.

I find myself often worrying about ‘problems’ that really aren’t problems at all.  Sometimes the problem is new, and I haven’t seen the like before.  Sometimes when a problem is explained  to me by someone else it seems huge, but after a bit of research I realize it’s not as big as either of us thought.

As new problems surface these days, I’ve been trying to weigh some of my cultural understandings against the problem to determine whether what I’m facing is really a problem.  Some of the questions I ask myself are:
  • If I was from another country would this still be a problem? (If I was Chinese, European, or Australian)  Different countries have very different value systems, and people of different nationalities will often approach the same situation very differently.  I admire the things that I’ve learned from my friends of different nationalities.
  • Is this problem a moral issue, or a cultural issue? If a moral person from another country would see the situation differently, the issue is probably not a moral one.  It’s probably a situation that has a creative solution, rather than an absolute one.
  • How does this situation make me feel? I often try to ‘think’ about a situation. While there’s nothing wrong with thinking something through, it can lead to ignoring my emotions.  Sometimes, asking myself how I feel can dig down to the root of the issue. That way I avoid just dealing with the symptoms.